The Beginning Steps Of Marriage and Having Kids

We learned about the different steps of early marriage. The proposal indicates the way a marriage starts and shows how the marriage will be in the future. If the husband proposes in a caring and thoughtful way, he will most likely carry that through the marriage. The parents should be consulted before getting engaged and it is important to ask for her hand in marriage. 
When planning a wedding, it is important to include your fiance in all of the decisions and to make it mutual. If you plan your wedding without your fiance, that pattern will continue on into the marriage. 
Then, at the beginning of the marriage, it is vital that the couple establishes patterns and learns mutual decision making skills. The living arrangements, such as decorations, should be done with input from both people. The first five years are very fragile and the better team work a couple learns, the happier and stronger their marriage will be. 
A first child can make or break a relationship. In an average couple, the marital satisfaction goes down with each child, but it doesn't have to if you do it right. When the first child is born, a mother's work load goes up by 40% while the fathers's work load only goes up by 30%. When a woman has a baby, it is important to share all the milestones with your spouse. A couple can bond by reading books together and by getting on the same exercise and eating habits. The couple should continue going on dates and shouldn't talk only about the baby. It is important to not have any other people in the delivery room because it can intrude on the bonding between the parents and baby. Something that intrigued me was that three kids are often easier than two. With two, they try to compete with each other for attention, but the three form a subsystem and learn to play with each other and take care of each other.